Republished © Stuart Wilde – Question and answer sessions Part 2
The Biggest Spiritual Challenge
Q: What has been the biggest spiritual challenge you have faced in your life?
A: The biggest challenge of my life hasn’t really been a spiritual one, although it has been part of my spiritual quest.
I always found spirituality, the disciplines of meditation and silence, very simple. My challenge was between activity and stillness. I always got off on the adrenaline trip of being active. That’s why I’ve traveled around so much.
In a way it was good, because I collected all the human experiences available to me. But sometimes, in a lot of activity, one is not really facing oneself.
Activity is sometimes a way of masking the insecurities that lie deep inside, masking your consolidated sense of self, because you’re always presenting yourself in a cloud of dust as your chariot screeches to a stop.
So my biggest spiritual challenge has been to give up going on the road as a metaphysical teacher, being in city after city — and forcing myself to quietly go within. It’s a long way from the razzmatazz and the income of traveling and teaching. I must say the first few months of it were quite tough, but afterwards I actually liked the silence a lot better than the razzmatazz.
Q: Which of your spiritual achievements are you most proud of?
A: What I have done is take complex ideas and explain them simply. I’ve been able to get spiritual, metaphysical information across to people without a lot of elitism and waffle. I feel that has been a good thing. The other thing I’ve been able to do in my seminars, especially many of the more complex ones, like Warriors in the Mist, was show people the existence of the etheric dimension. I took ordinary people with no particular training and showed them how to manoeuvre the etheric. I think that is an achievement, because I don’t believe there are many teachers who know how to do that and are prepared to stick their neck out in that way.
Wilde About Letting Go
Q: In your book and audio series 33 Steps, you discuss the courage of letting go in Step 3. When people tell you to “let go” of pain, anger, guilt, fear, and so on, exactly how do you do it? I’ve tried letting go in visualisations and meditations, but I find that I still haven’t really let go in my everyday life. What practical things can I do from day to day to let go?
A: Letting go is a hard one. Every part of humanity is designed to hang on. We hang on to our family connections, to the certificate we got at school, to our money, we embrace and hang on to our children, we lock our car and hang on to it. I think the whole definition of letting go is to stand outside the emotion. I talk about it a lot in my books, especially in Weight Loss for the Mind.
Letting go by visualising and meditating is tough, because you have to concentrate on the thing you’re trying to let go of. So it’s a bit self-defeating. I think it’s important to understand that you are not the character who is going through the emotion.
A technique I used in my meditations was to visualise myself spinning away. First, I would see myself in my mind’s eye, so I’d be looking at my face. I’d see myself doing “angry” because of, let’s say, a business situation. Then I’d visualise myself spinning away from the angry energy, or away from the upset. That helped me create the feeling of being able to detach myself from it, observe that it wasn’t me, and recognise that it was just a reaction I was going through.
All emotion is reaction to opinion. I talk about that a lot in my books. In order to feel any emotion, positive or negative, you have to first have an opinion. Usually the way to go past it all is to change the opinion. In other words, life isn’t necessarily going to go the way you want it. It’s not necessarily going to be in this way, on that day, at this time, in that format, and so on. The most important thing is to hang loose and go with the flow, bro’.
Afraid of the Unknown
Q: You talk about people being afraid of moving into the unknown. How important is change in a person’s life?
A: Naturally we are scared to move into the unknown because our personality relies a lot on the symbols, psychological structures, and associations we develop. We become comfortable in a society, and with a group of people – work mates, family, and friends.
However, embracing change is a matter of giving away or letting go of old traits. It’s all a matter of lowering your resistance and trusting. You can’t become something more if you can’t let go of where you find yourself today.
Change is perpetual. One way of evaluating your spirituality is by the freedom and looseness that you enjoy. It’s the concept of being ready for perpetual change, for change means that your energy is oscillating quickly, your life is fresh, and you are in an expanding evolution.
The ego/personality likes to create rhythm and structure. It seeks to hold you in place, where it can feel safe, where you can develop associations, observers, status, and importance. The ego likes to nail you down. It doesn’t like anything unexpected happening. Boring and stale feels safe to the ego.
The spiritual traveler moves at speed, holding on to very little, tolerating their challenges, and accepting life as they find it. Moving into the unknown is a matter of melting the resistance that one has to change, taking responsibility, and being able to accept that nothing is permanent and it doesn’t have to be for you to feel secure. For in the end, we will all change and melt into something bigger and better.
That’s the nature of the spiritual journey, and that’s pretty cool in my view. Give yourself away today to become something more tomorrow.
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