I really needed to do a preface to this article because there is always a shifting uncertainty about where justice lies and how much responsibility we take for our actions. Nobody can tell you – ultimately it comes down to a feeling you have about your own life. I like to think we can all take a big view of what has been going on in our world ever since man said to woman “make me dinner or else” and how, for so many men, the power structure now is unravelling.

So I prefer to see the thrust of this article as understanding a natural evolution of where we are heading. And that I believe is something we can celebrate rather than play a blame game about who did what to whom. We all have a choice where we work and play and blaming men for the evils of the world is not helpful for women. Here is my take on a controversial topic trying not to get caught up in men bashing or defending women with a power grabbing agenda.

So here goes.

In my travels about the planet I have noticed one thing that seems to be a universal law – if women are subservient and overly accommodating, men get to sit around a lot. In many places women are visibly working and the men are idle – chatting, cards, tea, coffee (all the while being served by women). I have seen this more-so in the developing world, being quite different to most Western democracies (although some of you may disagree).

It was probably the most obvious for me when in Turkey – hoards of men were strikingly visible on the street cafes and in tea houses. Recently in Vietnam I saw men (and women) working hard – in the fields and in construction – and I thought maybe it’s different here. But then a local man told me: yes men do work hard – sort of – but it’s the women that take up the slack.

Just near our beach shack near Hoi An, a young lady with two children would open her shop early in the morning and not shut to very late in the evening, working very long hours. Her husband drove the local school bus and loved to play cards. She told me she was so tired. I really felt for her because there was no way in that society she could leave her husband. And therein lies the bleeding obvious. Women are just tired of the male dominating ego bullshit. Not necessarily the men they mix with, but the way our institutions and businesses are structured to primarily serve men.

It seems that men have pretty much physically dominated the planet for the past couple of hundred thousand years, but we have now passed an inflection point: women are asserting their independence and a lot of men are not happy. They want to return to the old ways. What we are witnessing is a significant evolutionary adaptation in the way work and money is distributed. The old economies are being hollowed out making way for the new. People are in fear about the change but really we should be looking at the positives.

As automation of industry ramps up, we are moving to a technology driven world in which employment (and power) is shifting to the “caring economy”. Where social justice and a softer approach become the norm. As a result more women will take on leadership roles. There is much confusion about this energy shift, but the good news is that more and more men are adapting. You see it everywhere as they take on different roles and have different expectations. The men are more relaxed about the way they project their energy.

There are many women that have made their name and have found strength that inspires others to assert themselves. In the art world I think of the Australian actors – Nicole Kidman, Naomi Watts, Cate Blanchett and Emily Blunt. Hollywood is a phoney business and the recent exposure of the antics of Harvey Weinstein shouldn’t come as a surprise to most women (or men really). Many such businesses are changing and women are mustering up the courage to speak out.

As a result, the ghoulish predator men are being exposed. Alas politics is very different where women are yet to make significant inroads. America has a pussy grabbing president who has boasted about sexually assaulting women. He is protected by a battalion of men (and obviously compliant women who choose to agree that it’s just “locker room banter”) who dare to speak out for fear of losing their status. In China, the world’s other great power, the Chinese national congress is a sea of more than 2000 people – the vast majority being men.

As I previously said, I don’t want to get into men bashing because adults are responsible for their own destiny for the most part. Many would admit women can be worse than the men – they can be so horribly power-hungry. Fair enough.

A lot of women shrug their shoulders at it all. They are attracted to a spiritual life where they rarely travel in those elitist men dominated cesspools where big egos flourish. Essentially they never meet pussy grabbers.

So for women, if you want to be strong and project yourself in the ego way with the guys, it will be impossible to avoid men who feel threatened by you, for no other reason than you’re a woman. They are scared shitless and they will act on that fear. It’s their survival. But I do admire the women who give it go – sticking their necks out. It’s not for everyone (not for most really).

No doubt some women play the victim in all this and for attention, or money (or both) falsely accuse men of all sorts of transgressions. But that’s just human nature and it shouldn’t stop us from moving forward and calling it how it is.

The Y chromosome is taking a shellacking. Men are on notice and we should get our house in order. Many thanks to the women who speak up and keep us on our toes.

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